2025: A Year of Transformation
I didn’t glide into 2025. I crashed into it. Unmedicated, not in therapy, emotionally reckless, and clinging to versions of love and life that were never meant for me. I was exhausted, impulsive, and disconnected from myself in ways I didn’t fully understand yet. What followed wasn’t a gentle evolution, but a full-scale transformation. The kind that breaks you open before it builds you back stronger.
Now that the holidays are officially behind us (holiday recap coming Sunday), it feels right to pause and reflect on what 2025 truly was for me.
To put it simply, 2025 was a year of transformation.
I started this year unmedicated, not in therapy, and honestly a hot mess. I was dating men and women who were no good for me, making impulsive decisions, and living in ways that were unhealthy for my mind, my body, and my heart. I’m ending this year grounded, self-aware, deeply loved, and proud of the life I’m building.
Here’s how that happened.
Relationships: Learning, Letting Go, and Choosing Better
I started 2025 in a short but impactful relationship. One I’m genuinely grateful for, even though it ended in no contact. That relationship taught me so much about who I want to be as a partner and what I want in a partner. It forced me to look at myself honestly and set new standards for love and communication.
That clarity changed everything.
In April, I met Eric. From the very beginning, our relationship was built on positive communication, trust, and openness. Things I once struggled to believe were possible for me. Here we are eight months later, stronger than anything I could have imagined.
We’ve been to countless Phillies games, a Sixers game, and Eagles tailgates. We’ve moved in together, creating our little family with Penny, our fur baby. We’ve talked about future plans and what we see for our DINK life together. Experiences, travel, and loving the life we’re intentionally building side by side.
For the first time, love feels safe and exciting.
Redefining My Future
I ended 2024 obsessed with the idea of having children. I thought that was what my future was supposed to look like.
In February of 2025, I had an abortion. It was not a decision I took lightly, but it was the right one for me. That experience, paired with medication, therapy, and deep self-reflection throughout the year, solidified something I had been slowly realizing. I do not want children, at least not right now, and maybe not ever. And that truth brought me clarity, not guilt.
I love the children in my life deeply. My nieces and nephews mean the absolute world to me. But loving children doesn’t mean I need to have my own. I’m incredibly lucky to have found a partner who shares this mindset. We’re more than happy with the life we have, with each other and with Penny.
This year taught me that it’s allowed, and healthy, to make decisions about your body and your future that align with who you truly are.
Mental Health: The Hardest and Most Important Work
Mental health has been the biggest journey of 2025.
I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder at the end of 2024 and had a full-blown mental breakdown shortly after. I entered 2025 unmedicated, not in therapy, and terrified of what that diagnosis meant.
Now, I’m medicated, actively in therapy, and have come to understand what this diagnosis actually is, and what it isn’t.
I continue to learn and grow. I recognize my triggers and patterns and actively challenge them. I still struggle with impulses at times, but nowhere near where I once was. I’m able to pause, question the black and white thinking, and regulate my emotions in ways I never thought possible.
Healing hasn’t been linear, but it’s been real, and it’s changed my life.
Career: Choosing Myself Over Comfort
In 2025, I made one of the hardest professional decisions of my life.
I left a job I truly believed I would be at forever.
Walking away wasn’t easy, but it was necessary for my mental health. That chapter shaped me in ways I’ll forever be grateful for. The lessons I learned, the skills I built, and most importantly, the people I met and worked alongside. I’ll always cherish that time.
Choosing to leave wasn’t a failure. It was an act of self-preservation.
As I step into 2026, I’m doing so with excitement and intention. I’ll be starting a new role as a medical social worker at a local hospital, and I could not be more excited. This feels aligned, purposeful, and deeply meaningful.
Creativity, Travel, and Becoming More Me
2025 was also a year of choosing creativity, experience, and authenticity.
I launched my blog, giving myself a space to write honestly, reflect openly, and share pieces of my life and healing in real time. Starting it felt scary, but necessary. It became another way I learned to trust my voice.
In June, I went to my first Pride as an openly bisexual woman. It was joyful, affirming, and deeply freeing. Showing up fully as myself, surrounded by love and community, felt like another important step in coming home to who I am.
I also traveled to Ireland with my mom, a trip I will cherish forever. It was more than a vacation. It was time together, memories made, and a reminder of how special it is to experience the world with the people you love.
The Book: I Wrote a Whole Ass Book
Somehow, in the middle of all this growth, I wrote a book.
A real one. A whole fucking book.
The Borderline Between Us.
It’s not published yet, but publishing is my goal for 2026. Writing it alone would have been enough, but I went further. I began sharing pieces at open mics, standing in my vulnerability and letting my words exist in the world.
This book is one of the things I’m most proud of myself for. It represents survival, honesty, and the moment I finally believed my voice deserved space.
Family and Friends: The Constant That Grounds Me
If there’s one thing 2025 reaffirmed, it’s how lucky I am to be surrounded by incredible people.
This year was filled with birthday weekends and parties, Eagles Super Bowl moments, St. Patrick’s Day celebrations, kids’ birthday parties, family vacations, nights at the Rail, girls’ nights, tailgates, and holiday get-togethers. The list truly feels endless.
I’ve built new friendships and deepened old ones. We welcomed new family members, babies and romantic partners, and celebrated the birthdays of those still with us. I love every single person I surround myself with. I truly am so lucky to have wonderful people in my life.
Looking Ahead: Goals for 2026
Relationships
Continue to grow and deepen my relationship with Eric. Explore what partnership means to us. Create memories, experiences, and a life we’re proud of building together.
Mental Health
Stay consistent with therapy and medication. Continue learning my triggers, emotions, and behaviors. Be gentle with myself while still holding myself accountable. Keep choosing growth, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Creative Goals
Publish The Borderline Between Us. Begin developing DINK Life Diaries. Continue growing and writing my blog with honesty and intention.
Career
Be successful and confident in my new role as a medical social worker. Learn everything I can. Show up with empathy, boundaries, and purpose.
Family and Friends
Continue to show up for the people I love. Nurture the relationships that nourish me. Recognize when it’s time to let go, without guilt.
Personal Goals
Achieve and maintain financial stability. Prioritize physical health and movement that feels good. Create routines that support peace, not chaos. Travel more, rest more, and live intentionally.
Closing Thoughts
2025 didn’t just change my circumstances. It changed me. I leave this year more self-aware, more grounded, more loved, and more aligned than I’ve ever been. I didn’t survive 2025. I claimed it. And I’m walking into 2026 knowing exactly who I am, what I deserve, and how fiercely I’m willing to protect the life I’ve built.
-D
